The Confident Life Coach

I will often get people tell me that they think I?m a confident guy, especially after I have given a talk to a group of people on Life Coaching or self development in general. The information is often delivered to me in a state of awe as though just because I am a Life Coach I?m wired up differently to everybody else.

It would be interesting, even nice, to think that, but I have to confess that Life Coaches are wired up the same as everybody else and have the same amount of confidence and that is exactly the right amount. Unfortunately confidence is often misunderstood and people tend to confuse it will self doubt or having a low self esteem and they are not the same thing at all.

I had a lady hire me to be her Life Coach about 3 months ago who complained of a lack of confidence. When I asked her why she thought she lacked confidence she said it was because she had very low self esteem and had had since her childhood.

Now please understand, I understand this way of thinking and on the surface it makes perfect sense and something I would probably have thought prior to becoming a Life Coach in 2005.

However, confidence is internal and not determined by external factors unless we allow it to be and you can not go out and buy extra confidence

The fact is you have all the confidence in the world already inside you. You are a confidence machine even if you rarely or never feel like that. I bet you would have no problem assuring me that you are able to tie your shoe laces, eat a piece of pizza, find your way to work, recognize your family members or get out of bed without breaking your leg, right?

Then you must be a fairly confident person, because you would have to be confident that you could do those things, otherwise you would keep quiet.

It?s just that sometimes we forget about all the things we are totally confident about and struggle with self doubt.

That moves you away from ?feeling? confident, but remember that situation is purely contextual. Your confidence hasn?t gone anywhere, it is simply sat there waiting for you to access it.

You may think this is all semantics, but it?s way more important than that. As a Life Coach I have to get clients to believe that change is possible if I?m going to help them make that change. Otherwise why would they ever try and do something that they considered impossible.

When I give public presentations and speeches (especially to other Life Coaches) I get very nervous beforehand and sometimes self doubt will creep in and try and undermine my confidence. But it can?t, because my self confidence is bomb proof (as it yours) and will only be undermined if I allow it to. Don?t allow yours to be undermined!
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